Do You Have a “Voyage” of Your Own to Embark On?
If so, This Post is All You Need!
In the movie, Moana, it all begins with Tala, Moana’s grandmother, telling the village children about the tale of Te Fiti, the mother island, who uses her heart to bring the Island life. The story continues with the tale of Maui, a shapeshifter, who stole the heart of Te Fiti, causing the mother island to slowly fall to pieces, giving life to Te Ka, a demon. Tala concludes her story by telling the children that Te Ka and his army are still in search of the heart of Te Fiti and that someone, one day, will have to retrieve the heart to restore the land and bring peace in the world. Similar to Te Fiti, Moms around the world, use their hearts to bring life to their children. Through your journey, you will encounter people with opinions, different outlooks and “words of wisdom” that worked for them. You may find people similar to Maui, who did not mean any harm but ultimately bring you more harm than good.
Moana felt a constant need to be around the Ocean. Josi’s ultimate need was to be held every time she slept. The only time Josi slept without being held (for the first couple of months was her life) was the first night in the hospital. By night two, Josi went from Te Fiti to Te Ka within a matter of hours. When I tell you Josi screamed every time I set her down, I am not kidding. I remember calling for the nurse and asking her, “what am I doing wrong.” She explained that Josi was just looking for some skin to skin and to nurse her every time she started to cry. I’d like to say I was cool enough to add this night to my list of all-nighters, but this was honestly the first time I’ve ever been awake for the entire duration of a day.
Moana knew her Grandmother was hiding something from her and soon Moana learned her people use to be Voyagers. When Josi wasn’t sleeping on her own, I too remember thinking, “someone isn’t telling me something, what am I doing wrong.” It wasn’t until I came across an Instagram account, Taking Cara Babies, that I thought I would be able to restore the heart of the Te Fiti aka I’d be able to lay Josi down without fighting the fiery demon, Te Ka. I decided to purchase Taking Cara Babies sleep program and to this day was the best money I’ve ever spent. However, just like Moana had to venture across the sea to find Maui and restore the heart of Te Fiti, I too had an ocean of my own to cross and obstacles to tackle along the way.
Similar to Moana’s father’s attempt to keep Moana away from the Ocean, many people, including my husband, didn’t want me to follow the simple guidelines the Taking Cara Babies sleep program encouraged moms to do. Just like Moana constantly being drawn to the ocean, despite her father’s disapproval, I remember months of fighting with my husband to allow me to use a sound machine and the even bigger battle of convincing him to allow me to black-out Josi’s room. However, just like Moana, I followed my heart and knew what had to be done.
When Moana followed her heart, found Maui and formed their team, they were able to restore the heart of Te Fiti. No matter what your current mom struggle is, I hope this post helps you realize that by following your own heart, you can also find the answers you have been seeking. I knew what needed to be done to restore our sense of peace. Although it took my husband sometime to agree to embark on this journey, once we did it was as though we had just defeated Te Ka ourselves.